Let’s Talk Emotions!


Emotions are all about how we feel inside and these feelings can affect the way we behave. 


Here are some examples of the different types of emotions:

Angry – this emotion can get you into hot water if your behavior becomes violent. It all depends on why you are angry.

Love/Joy – showing and being loved is a nice feeling. It’s not just about romance and falling in love. Other loving emotions are those of your children, siblings, parents and other family members. Some people have a love for animals and nature. Some people will have a love for certain foods and drinks. Joy can be when you see someone who has been absent for a long time or achieving something you worked hard for.

Anxiety/Fear – this is the worry emotion, which can lead to stress and stress can lead to medical issues.

Sadness – we all feel sad many times in life. When loved ones or longtime friends die. When we read sad stories or hear bad news.

Disgust – is when we are appalled by something that has happened such as a scandal that has involved a  gruesome murder or sexual abuse.

Surprise! – Everyone loves a surprise such as your off-spring showing up unexpectedly after being on tour in the forces in a hostile country.  This would reflect surprise and joy together. Birthday surprise parties is another example.

Trust – this is a special one, knowing you can place your trust in someone whether family, friend or a professional person and know you can confide without any fear of that person betraying you.

Relief this is the emotion that can bring you down from being stressed and worried to a feeling you have just shifted a tone of weight off your shoulder.

People interpret emotions in different ways.  When thinking about emotions someone may think they felt hot when angry because of the saying ‘boiling with anger.’ However, being joyful and full of excitement can make you feel ‘light-headed!’

Let’s do an exercise

Get two pieces of paper and draw a body on each one. On the top of each head write a positive emotion and a negative one. Try to remember a time when you actually felt that emotion. The following list is referred to as sub-modalities:

Where about in your body is that emotion?
In your mind what does it look like?
Does it have a color?
Does the emotion travel about in your body and if it does draw the route it is taking around your body.
Is it traveling fast or slow?
Is the temperature of the emotion high or low?
Does the emotion have taste or smell?
If you compare emotions they are very different but we don’t actually think about them like this.

To carry on with the exercise change the speed and temperature and anything else you recorded about them and see how it made you feel. Sometimes you probably noticed the emotion became weaker or stronger.

You should now have the capability to understand and control your emotions better.

I hope you found this helpful and a bit of fun. It’s something you could do as an exercise with close friends or family and then compare results.

Jan, Life Coach You

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